Marrying the wrong person

For most people marriage happens once in a lifetime and this is why it's extremely important to make sure that it will go well. So many people mistakenly get married to the wrong persons then end up either divorcing or living an unbearable life.

Before taking a step as serious as marriage you should be 100% sure that you are doing it right else you should back off and take your time to think until you find out what you really want.

In this post i will help you a bit by telling you about some signs that might mean that you are on your way to marry the wrong person. In case you found many of those signs in your relationship then pause and think a lot before you take that step.

10 signs you are marrying the wrong person

1) You are afraid to end up alone: Are you getting married because you are afraid to end up alone? then most probably you didn't spend much time finding out whether this person is suitable for you or not
2) You think its about time: If you are getting married because you think that its about time to get married then most probably you are getting married to the wrong person. The right time for marriage is when you find the right person and not when you reach a certain age (see also The right time for marriage)
3) You can't handle peer pressure: "All my friends got married, most have kids and i am the only one remaining". If that's the logic that motivates you to get married then most probably you will get married to first wrong person who proposes to you
4) You need love: In my book How to get over anyone in few days i said that if you are getting married because you need to be loved then you will end up with the first person who displays love and affection even if he is totally unsuitable for you
5) You are too confused between two people: If you are too confused between two people then make sure that you don't really like both of them. When you find the right person you will be 100% sure and you won't even think about putting them into comparison with others
6) You can't survive alone: There is one famous psychological problem called relationship addiction where the person becomes unable to function alone without a loving partner. Relationship addicts always fall in love with the wrong people because they seek any refuge from the unbearable emotions they feel when they are single (see also What do i really want from a relationship)
7) You don't know exactly what you are looking for: Remember when you were single? did you have a solid idea about the person you wanted to get married to? if you didn't then most probably you will end up with the wrong person. If you don't know what you want then your body chemicals (butterflies) will control your decision (see also How to know what you want in a relationship
8) You want to have kids Its good to love kids but if you are getting married to have kids then most probably you didn't spend enough time looking for the right person.
9) You think that no body is perfect: Yes no body is perfect but there are people out there who are perfect for you. Looking for perfection is wrong but looking for a perfect match is 100% realistic (see also How the available options affect the relationship partner choice)
10) You are ignoring the warning signs: If you saw many warning signs like a serious miss-match in your personalities yet you kept moving forward then know that you are taking a serious risk of getting married to the wrong person

What if the perfect match showed up later?

I know you might be thinking that its really hard to find the perfect match but what if you got married to the wrong person then the right person showed up in your life months or years later?

When it comes to buying a car or even a house you can always go for the option you are not 100% sure of because few years or even decades later you might have the choice to buy the one you always dreamed of but when it comes for marriage its usually a one time decision and this is why you should never go for what's less than you truly want.

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